A Daddy's Tale:
After Gabby, my elder daughter was discharged from the hospital, We saw a significant changes in her behaviour. We know that this will come, even if we tried preventing it to happen or even if we read all sorts of articles on how to deal with it before it become a problem. No matter how you prepared on it, it will certainly happen, it's inevitable.
Our 2nd baby was born a month ago, our daily routine changes and it affects my older child significantly. For almost two years, our attention is on her all the time but now it's divided. Even if we tried explaining everything, even if we know she was trying to understand the present situation, eventually she will feel jealous. The smile, the sweetness and the affections is somehow reduced. She became moody and sad. Even if we see her smiling while watching her favorite show, we saw in her eyes that she was sad and she knew she can't do anything to change the situation.
Our hearts are wounded because of these. Where is our Gabby, where is our sweet baby? we hoped for her return sooner.
One night while we where sleeping, she was suddenly awaken by the cry of her little sister and saw her mom nursing our child. Gabby sat, put her hand on her face and sob. It was really a painful scene to see her having a hard time coping.
My wife sent me a message and, " I can't help but cry to see our daughter feeling sad, I hope she will be okay, sooner because I missed her a lot". I just told my wife to spent more time with our elder daughter just like the old days (if there is a chance) and involved her more in taking care of our little child.
One day, My wife did a brilliant idea to bring Gabby with her for some errands and told Danie to sleep longer because she will be out for a while to be with her big sister. Great!, it worked, Danie cooperated.
Gabby appreciated their date a lot. They both went home happy and we know she was happy because she kissed her mom repeatedly and said "I love you". That sort of "date" made the difference, an assurance for Gabby that mom love her the same way just like before.
Our sweet and loving Gabby is back and I love it to the max.
Our 2nd baby was born a month ago, our daily routine changes and it affects my older child significantly. For almost two years, our attention is on her all the time but now it's divided. Even if we tried explaining everything, even if we know she was trying to understand the present situation, eventually she will feel jealous. The smile, the sweetness and the affections is somehow reduced. She became moody and sad. Even if we see her smiling while watching her favorite show, we saw in her eyes that she was sad and she knew she can't do anything to change the situation.
Our hearts are wounded because of these. Where is our Gabby, where is our sweet baby? we hoped for her return sooner.
One night while we where sleeping, she was suddenly awaken by the cry of her little sister and saw her mom nursing our child. Gabby sat, put her hand on her face and sob. It was really a painful scene to see her having a hard time coping.
My wife sent me a message and, " I can't help but cry to see our daughter feeling sad, I hope she will be okay, sooner because I missed her a lot". I just told my wife to spent more time with our elder daughter just like the old days (if there is a chance) and involved her more in taking care of our little child.
One day, My wife did a brilliant idea to bring Gabby with her for some errands and told Danie to sleep longer because she will be out for a while to be with her big sister. Great!, it worked, Danie cooperated.
Gabby appreciated their date a lot. They both went home happy and we know she was happy because she kissed her mom repeatedly and said "I love you". That sort of "date" made the difference, an assurance for Gabby that mom love her the same way just like before.
Our sweet and loving Gabby is back and I love it to the max.
